tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3739903651344104723.post726681127897981848..comments2023-04-27T04:15:23.935-04:00Comments on things too wonderful: Christians and Abstinence - Why?Nicholashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03876710927302794606noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3739903651344104723.post-81508733536126976562008-04-28T07:50:00.000-04:002008-04-28T07:50:00.000-04:00"The big myth is that Christians believe that sex ..."The big myth is that Christians believe that sex is bad and you shouldn't do it."<BR/>Sheesh, my parents have 9 kids and a 23 year marriage. When did culture decide that those who understood sex best are sterile thirty-something year olds that run through enough conquests like notches on their scalp belts, and have trouble sustaining a lasting relationship?<BR/>I'd say that our culture is not only sick, its stupid. I see my mom and dad laugh and kiss after he tells his dumb jokes, and the romance they have makes cosmopolitan look like a nauseous pathetic little fake. Maybe its because I am a girl, but guys with "conquests" i.e. a lot of girl's scalps on their belt, always struck me as rather unattractive...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3739903651344104723.post-45924529412955342342008-04-04T16:13:00.000-04:002008-04-04T16:13:00.000-04:00Mr. Ejercito,I find implicit in your statement a c...Mr. Ejercito,<BR/><BR/>I find implicit in your statement a couple of assumptions:<BR/><BR/>(1) All men are always trying to have sex. If a man makes it to 30 without having sex, it means he has tried and failed all of this time.<BR/><BR/>(2) A man's worth is measured by his sexual conquests. A man who has not had sex by 30 is no man.<BR/><BR/>I can see how these assumptions flow from American culture and what Christians would call the fallen state of male-female relations (see Genesis 3:16), but I don't think they are valid.<BR/><BR/>As leighcia pointed out, under this philosophy women are the means to an end. Their purpose is for men to have sex with them. A man's interest with a woman is in getting her to have sex with him. That is, if she meets his standards for beauty - otherwise she is good for nothing at all.<BR/><BR/>I know plenty of men who operate this way, but I would say that it is these men who are not really men at all. Real men love self-sacrificially, following the example of the realest man of all.<BR/><BR/>If a man's worth isn't measured by his sexual conquests, then it doesn't matter if he hasn't had sex.<BR/><BR/>I don't want to minimize the struggle that living that long without sex could be. The Bible teaches that the strong sexual desire men feel is good and natural, but that it is to point to something far greater than the vision of masculinity outlined above. The answer to these desires is not a female body, but a female companion.<BR/><BR/>I encourage you to question where you think a man should find his worth, his approval. Should it be in humans, whose approval is fickle and often grounded in what they stand to gain? Or in God, whose approval is lasting, meaningful, and grounded in the kind of love which led him to die for us?Nicholashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03876710927302794606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3739903651344104723.post-75073468213316159322008-04-03T20:36:00.000-04:002008-04-03T20:36:00.000-04:00I wouldn't call it a sign of strength to make deci...<I><BR/>I wouldn't call it a sign of strength to make decisions based on how others perceive you, or how you think you compare to others.</I><BR/>I would not call it a sign of strength either.<BR/><BR/>I call it a sign of pragmatism.Michael Ejercitohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707862691472293497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3739903651344104723.post-13510075516519504952008-04-03T10:28:00.000-04:002008-04-03T10:28:00.000-04:00Michael, I agree with you that it's a reason ... b...Michael, I agree with you that it's a reason ... but I don't think it's a very good reason. (I'm not sure if you were implying that it was a legitimate reason or not...)<BR/><BR/>I wouldn't call it a sign of strength to make decisions based on how others perceive you, or how you think you compare to others. <BR/><BR/>If you had sex just to measure up to other people, to boost your bragging rights, then are you really valuing amd honoring the person with whom you're having sex? You're just treating them as a means to an end.l e i g h c i ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13085769412101864533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3739903651344104723.post-47925289410315187472008-04-02T19:54:00.000-04:002008-04-02T19:54:00.000-04:00Another reason for having sex is to measure up to ...Another reason for having sex is to measure up to other people.<BR/><BR/>Imagine a thirty-year-old man who is still a virgin, knowing that everyone around him, including his own family, has had sex. How would he feel about it? How would other people feel about him?Michael Ejercitohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707862691472293497noreply@blogger.com